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    Unhappy Unfaithful Cops ?

    Male officers come across so many females...cute little ones on traffic stops and the vulnerable ones caught up in domestic situations and the like. There are many opportunities to strike up a relationship with any of those females.

    My question is, do you think that most cops cheat on their spouse or do you think that the number of cheating cops is slim to none? I don't expect anyone to admit to cheating (duh), but maybe a cop who's heard other guys talking/bragging in his department can give me an honest answer? Any dispatchers who hear the dept. gossip? I'm having a rough time with a relationship that involves a LEO...need advice from other LEO's on this matter. Thanks.

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    I can't say with certainty that cops cheat more than other professions. I believe it is rampant everywhere.

    That being said - i do know factually one department/station in particular where cheating seems to be the norm with many, many of the officers working there. I honestly don't believe this is isolated to this station either.
    Don't ask, i won't go into detail who/why/what/where/how.

    The best advice i can offer is this - if you don't trust the person you're with, you probably need to move on. If you are dating an LEO and can't handle the numerous opportunities they have - you probably shouldn't try.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LovnTheFuzz
    I can't say with certainty that cops cheat more than other professions. I believe it is rampant everywhere.
    I agree.
    Although it 'seems' to be more prevalent in the police profession, i dont believe the job causes it. It's the MAN himself. I think there may be more opportunites, but that doesnt mean someone has to take advantage of them.

    But, its a strong man who can resist temptation. My ex-'s ego was stroked by the women he 'came in contact with.' No pun intended Of course, that wasnt all that was stroked.

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    can't say with certainty that cops cheat more than other professions. I believe it is rampant everywhere.
    You're absolutely right. I guess stuck in 'our' world, it slipped my mind that he's just a man. Men, no matter the profession, cheat on their spouses. Duh.

    I'm just having an exceptionally bad night. Men just suck...what else can I say? Sigh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FeatherStorm5
    Men just suck...what else can I say? Sigh.
    Oh, i absolutely agree with that as well. lol

    Just don't be like so many WEAK women and stick around in a realtionship that isn't right for you. FIND THE RIGHT MAN.

    Good ones are out there, they are just REALLY hard to find.

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    No never, who us? We don't do such things!! Seriously, all men and women have plenty of opportunities to cheat, let's not just beat up on men for cheating, women do it too and often times better.
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    I believe in cutting through the bull****, so I'll just say that cops do indeed cheat on their wives at an almost-sickening rate.

    Of the hundreds of cops I work with, there are only a handful, including me, that I can say with confidence have never cheated on their wives.

    What's the problem? First off, a guy should NEVER become a cop after he's married. This job will change him in ways he won't even realize, and he'll suddenly become five times as attractive to females, once he puts on the blue suit. If a guy becomes a cop after he's married, that marriage has a very good chance of failing. Just my observation.

    I waited until I was 32 to get married for a reason. First, I got all the "bachelor" stuff out of my system, and I had also been on the job long enough that my wife knew what she was getting.
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    Along with what Delta said,

    I want to add that the 'brotherhood' is very adept at protecting it's members.
    I also know and have seen this first hand. It's quite scary.

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    I was working the desk on Thanksgiving night, 2002, answered the phone, the female caller asked if patrolmen work a straight 36 hour shift, I said "no". She then named the officer (married) and told me that she has been "Seeing" him for a while and that he has been telling her that he was going to leave his wife for her. She started whining/crying, telling me the whole story. It was entertaining, so I listened a while. She sounded like a middle aged woman who should have known better than to believe the "I'm going to leave my wife (and kids) soon". I didn't know the officer, but I recognized the officers by name, as being on another shift. Right before she hung up she said " tell ---- that I hope he enjoys thanksgiving dinner with the wife and kids".

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    It takes 2 to tango....so that makes which one worse-the man or the woman? That's assuming they both know the circumstances-people will lie to be with someone and say they're not married.
    I think you can't single out cops, although it seems to be a stereotype for the profession. My ex is a truck driver, you think they don't fool around? (He never did-that's not why he's my ex).

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    Quote Originally Posted by LovnTheFuzz

    I want to add that the 'brotherhood' is very adept at protecting it's members.
    I also know and have seen this first hand. It's quite scary.
    Ohhhhhh, yes.

    My ex- was a dispatcher when we got married. However, in his department, that's the starting job before patrolman. He wore the uniform, etc. And its not just the uniform that draws women, its the power and the feeling that this man can take care of them and protect them.

    Yes, men and women both cheat, in all professions. But, like Delta said, in my ex-'s department there were maybe TWO guys who didnt cheat on their wives. Out of about 45.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jellybean400
    Ohhhhhh, yes.

    My ex- was a dispatcher when we got married. However, in his department, that's the starting job before patrolman. He wore the uniform, etc. And its not just the uniform that draws women, its the power and the feeling that this man can take care of them and protect them.

    Yes, men and women both cheat, in all professions. But, like Delta said, in my ex-'s department there were maybe TWO guys who didnt cheat on their wives. Out of about 45.

    And believe it or not cheating on one side or the other occurs in about 77% of all marriages. You are lucky if you fall into the 23% of non cheating marriages.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 6233108
    And believe it or not cheating on one side or the other occurs in about 77% of all marriages. You are lucky if you fall into the 23% of non cheating marriages.
    Only 77%... ? Not as high as i thought.

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    So would it be better to become a LEO for a few years THEN get married?
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    I know a few that have cheated on their wives, but I have to say that I know more that haven't, including me. Unfortunately, the attraction of the uniform seems to be true, and if a person is in a bad marraige, or has little moral integrity, the temtation may be too much. I know of a few guys that are working into their 60s because their wives had enough, took half of their pension, and they have to work longer to build it up again. I can't say that the temptation hasn't been there from time to time, and the opportunity has certainly presented itself, but I'm not about to give up a stable life for a cop groupie.

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    it happens everywhere, you just hear more about officers, cause of gossip and terd reporters,,,from what ive heard and seen it happens just as much if not more in hospitals with docs and nurses.

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    Known a couple that have cheated and were vocal about it. I think it depends on your personal values whether you would cheat or not. Wo(men), money, and booze will get you fired faster than anything as my sgt used to say. Take that advice to heart and you'll be ok.
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    Quote Originally Posted by HeyCJ
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    I've had two cops advise me not to date a cop (not that I'm trying ). But if it's anyone who would know about a cops behavior, it is another cop..........
    Same here... One of my good friends whom i went to school with is an officer in a neighboring city. He told me recently... "Don't date a cop... cops are A-holes."

    I tend to believe that A-holes are everywhere though

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    Arrow Cheatin'

    I got married right after I finished my Technical training for the AF... currently an SF stationed Germany (2 years left there, 5 years left total), then I plan on going civilian LE...

    My wife knew what she was getting into with the new Aerospace Expeditionary thing... more and more deployments to crappier and crappier places... for 6 months...
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    Last month my husband and I celebrated 12 years of being married. He's a Marshal, and never has cheated on me nor me on him. My father was a local County Deputy for 20 years than became a Marshal for 10. He and my Mom celebrated 35 yrs last month. And not an affair ever. I really don't think it has to do with the occupation. Yes officers are out and about in the public more but if they have any integrity, morals, and respect for themselves and their spouse, they should have enough self control to keep it in their pants.

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    Smile Unfaithful Cops

    Do you have a GOOD sense of humor? Men are men(thank goodness)and you will need a sense of humor and faith in your relationship to make it work.Trust your mate,no matter what and don't give him any reason to look elsewhere for what you have to offer . Most cops appreciate their spouse being there for them and not adding more stress to their load. Being able to be best friends helps a lot,too!!

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    Unfaithful Cops

    Be honest....make your home a safe haven so your spouse can relax and escape from the pressures of their public life and remember to overlook a lot of things and forgive the others!!! Whatever it takes to keep'em HAPPY!!

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    Talking Unfaithful Cops

    One more on this and I'm gone....my "other half"(not my "better half") and I have trashed around together now for over 21 years and it is still going on! He was a 17 year veteran trooper and I was a truck driver when we crossed paths(an occupational hazard) and after the fighting was over,we realized,Hey! Someone who doesn't back down! That and the aftershave was enough investigate further and we have been together ever since. Our children have grown up to be clean-living happily married productive,law-abiding members of society and even like to come visit us now and then with the grandkids.. Not bad for a couple of old farts who beat the odds Heh? WHERE DID WE GO WRONG?!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by barbara6317
    Be honest....make your home a safe haven so your spouse can relax and escape from the pressures of their public life and remember to overlook a lot of things and forgive the others!!! Whatever it takes to keep'em HAPPY!!
    I did all that. And I also thought we were best friends.

    Things go both ways. One spouse shouldnt need to go more out of the way to do everything right than the other.

    He cheated, I didnt. His ego needed it. He got everything he could need or want at home...or so one would think.

    You can do everything right in a marriage; nothing "guarantees" someone will not cheat. It comes from INSIDE THEM.

    And, I am happy for your marriage success

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    I haven't come across any girls...well one that thought I was cute and told me so...but after I arrested her and towed her vehicle I just don't think she was interested anymore.


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