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    Being Social?

    How on earth do you guys keep up a social life?

    I'm still pretty young but have found it incredibly difficult to keep up a social life since I started working, especially since I'm on a 12 hour night schedule now. Most of my old circle of friends has moved out of town and the remainder seems like they'll be on their way out in the next few years.

    I realize that a lot of other young cops face this, especially when they move into a new town for the job. How do you guys do it?
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    Find non-toolboxes that work your same rotation to hang out with. Anyone that wears hero cop t-shirts off duty are the ones to avoid.
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    Get on chatroulette in your uniform, it's a surefire way to make some new friends.

    Serious answer now, coming from a LEO that I know he says that if you work with people you can tolerate and get along with then you build up a healthy rapport and before long you'll be knocking them back at the pub together. He works in a large precinct though, so there would be more people to choose from than if you're in a small town.
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    Social life with wife: Have people over for dinner and a movie on my off nights.

    Social life with friends: Be active in your church and join a organization, ie elks, civitan, or masonic lodge (my personal choice thought its not for everyone). I am not pushing any of these organizations this is just what works for me.

    I to work 12 hour night shift.
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    Quote Originally Posted by leeheydon View Post
    Get on chatroulette in your uniform, it's a surefire way to make some new friends.

    Serious answer now, coming from a LEO that I know he says that if you work with people you can tolerate and get along with then you build up a healthy rapport and before long you'll be knocking them back at the pub together. He works in a large precinct though, so there would be more people to choose from than if you're in a small town.
    I do that but I have an Obama halloween mask.

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    I do that but I have an Obama halloween mask.
    Good reactions?
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    Quote Originally Posted by leeheydon View Post
    Good reactions?
    You can tell who likes Obama and who doesn't... I'll leave it at that

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    Quote Originally Posted by Taylor13 View Post
    You can tell who likes Obama and who doesn't... I'll leave it at that
    Haha I got some naked guy with a Palin mask once.
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    Internet dating sites.

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    I get 3 days off a week and have enrolled into a clinical psychology masters program. I spend time with my wife, friends when I can on my off days. I just take it as it comes, I get about 18 hours a month pto so I plan ahead and take paid time off. It really helps.
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    Quote Originally Posted by leeheydon View Post
    Haha I got some naked guy with a Palin mask once.
    I say dress up as the depressed Persian tow truck guy from MadTv, but without a shirt on.


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    Hi There,

    Start using social media.You can become social and make lots and lots of friend in networking sites. I am sure it will be of help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TashaSilvester View Post
    Hi There,

    Start using social media.You can become social and make lots and lots of friend in networking sites. I am sure it will be of help.
    And be VERY careful using social media while you are a LEO.....it can (and has) gotten more than a few in very deep water
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheTick View Post
    Find non-toolboxes that work your same rotation to hang out with. Anyone that wears hero cop t-shirts off duty are the ones to avoid.
    Reminds me, I saw someone at work today wearing a blue t-shirt with "POLICE" on the back and they looked unarmed. Figured it was either a wannabe or someone in the academy. Either way, I just shook my head.
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    That is how social media became so popular. Lots of people have weird schedules, and being able to be online and connect with the outside world at any time has opened up a lot of territory for people. You might just luck out and hook up with someone who has about as much time to spare as you do.

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    It's weird that every six months a random "female" joins this forum and resurrects a ton of long dead threads.

    I've started to just assume it's the same badge bun- er, I mean, person over and over again.

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    find clubs that you are interested in. I was on the mushroom shift for most of my time on the road. On my first day off I would sleep for 3 or so hours and then get up to be on a regular cycle. You will get used to it. I would say the bar scene but, sometimes that can be a problem waiting to happen.

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    I hang out with non-cop friends when I can, and cop friends any other time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hanmo View Post
    How on earth do you guys keep up a social life?

    I'm still pretty young but have found it incredibly difficult to keep up a social life since I started working, especially since I'm on a 12 hour night schedule now. Most of my old circle of friends has moved out of town and the remainder seems like they'll be on their way out in the next few years.

    I realize that a lot of other young cops face this, especially when they move into a new town for the job. How do you guys do it?
    It's tough finding that balance.

    I'm in the same boat you are, and I find that the vast, vast, majority of the night squad that I work on do nothing but hang out and get drunk on their off days. I don't drink and don't enjoy the bar atmosphere, so I don't go. That's what makes it especially hard for me to meet people.

    On the other hand, your normal friends don't really understand why you're taking a nap at 1400 on your days off. I'll get up sometimes and go hang out over some Madden or Call of Duty, get some food, play rugby in the park, and just generally catch up. It's tough though because being awake during the night is not normal for me and my body simply doesn't adjust to it. I'm off this weekend and have slept a total of 24 hours since getting off at 0700 Friday morning.

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    I honestly chalk it up to just being "life". Whether or not you work a cop job, or a 9 to 5 or whatever, as people get older they drift in new directions. I'm getting married soon, and work inconsistant shifts, and I really don't have much of a social life but it's more of a choice. I don't do the bar scene, I'd rather spend my nights off or weekends watching Netflix and hanging out on a couch.

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