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Slowing-Dee
01-21-2006, 01:45 AM
Remember this guy (http://forums.officer.com/forums/showthread.php?t=39896&highlight=combatting+nervousness) ?

Anyways he was in again tonight (working) and when one of my co-workers realized that he was the guy that I was talking about she went on to tell me that one of the bakers heard from one of the day time girls that she used to date him until she found out that he was really dirty, a player, and diseased. :eek: Now I have a hard time believing this myself, as he seems like a really nice guy with a respectable job (he's in LE, a S/Cst.), he's a little on the religious side, and I have a hard time believing that my CIL would be friends with some sort of scumbag considering my CIL's line of work. I was always raised to not believe rumours, and I want to dismiss these ones, but then I started trying to determine whether such rumour could be true about him so I started analyzing all the different situations that I've seen him, and as an unwanted result, I was able to make connections to scumbagness and these various social situations. To try and calm myself down I decided to analyze my sources. I came up with the following:

The day time girl:
-Is said to have gone on a trip to Mexico with another day time girl who is her friend and they met some guy and had a threesome with him. :rolleyes:
-Goes by the name Paris on her name tag which isn't anything close to her real name. (And we all know what Paris Hilton is famous for.)
-Is a cheerleader

The baker:
-Is heavy into drugs
-Hides in the back every time the police come in for coffee
-Often drinks a bottle of Robutessim (sp?) before coming to work
-Has frequent strange visitors coming to visit him at work. Some of them making odd requests of him often involving a hot tub or car.

The girl who told me this said that she didn't think that these were all that reliable of sources and that she didn't believe them.

I just want to call up my CIL and just ask him straight out if these rumours are true. He went to college with him. I'm sure he'd know better than the baker. I'm not going to at this point though, as it's not really necessary, I don't feel like getting into a conversation about his friend's history with him, and he's busy with other things right now. Of course though, that if there was a chance that I'd be at some sort of danger, or risk healthwise, I'd be doing everything in my power to make sure I get the truth BEFORE something happens.

As it stands right now I'm going to do my best to dismiss these rumours, but I was just wondering how often rumours like these turn out to be true?
SlowDownThere
01-21-2006, 06:54 AM
Are you Woodles?
texaschickeee
01-21-2006, 08:47 AM
typically the rumors that are spreasd are fasle

its like the national eniquirier. the print all this crap, then say I m sorry.

any one that gossips about people to you are gossiping about you to others.

that said, most of the crap in the grape vine are sour, rooten grapes and hold little if any truth.
Slowing-Dee
01-21-2006, 09:25 AM
Are you Woodles?

Yes.


typically the rumors that are spreasd are fasle

its like the national eniquirier. the print all this crap, then say I m sorry.

any one that gossips about people to you are gossiping about you to others.

that said, most of the crap in the grape vine are sour, rooten grapes and hold little if any truth.

Yeah, I don't know. Some things don't add up. I'd think that if he was a major player that he'd be a little bit more smooth than pointing and laughing, and then ducking out of the way in an attempt to not be noticed.

People spread rumours about me in high school. They were false, of course, however, the one about me and drugs and beating up a girl at school over drugs in grade nine was believed by my friend for the longest time. even though I've never touched a drug in my life.

I just have a hard time believing this one.

I hope no one's gossiping about me at work now too.
SlowDownThere
01-21-2006, 09:44 AM
The question is "how often are they true?" The answer, not very often

Get to know they guy and find out for yourself. If he's a player, move on, at least you'll know. If not, maybe you've made a new friend.
Slowing-Dee
01-21-2006, 12:23 PM
The question is "how often are they true?" The answer, not very often

Get to know they guy and find out for yourself. If he's a player, move on, at least you'll know. If not, maybe you've made a new friend.

Yeah, I was thinking about giving that a try as well. Only one slight problem; I still haven't combatted the nervousness I get around him. :o
SlowDownThere
01-21-2006, 04:05 PM
Yeah, I was thinking about giving that a try as well. Only one slight problem; I still haven't combatted the nervousness I get around him. :o

I thought we had that all worked out.

And why the name change?
willowdared
01-22-2006, 12:01 AM
I thought we had that all worked out.

And why the name change?

Ya know - I had been wondering if Woodles was SpeeDee, who is now Slow Dee. Then there is Chiller who is also GPOC.
Operator13
01-22-2006, 03:12 AM
Ya know - I had been wondering if Woodles was SpeeDee, who is now Slow Dee. Then there is Chiller who is also GPOC.

LOL, there may be one or two others with multiple names.

A couple forums I go to have an IP query button attatched to all posts, cuts down on those with multiple identities. :cool:
willowdared
01-22-2006, 02:25 PM
LOL, there may be one or two others with multiple names.

A couple forums I go to have an IP query button attatched to all posts, cuts down on those with multiple identities. :cool:

Yeah - very handy. There's one I post at that has the IP address on every post for the same reason.


As for the original question - SpeeDoodles - your opinion of people should be based on your own personal experience with them, not heresay of others.
Girleygirl
01-22-2006, 02:29 PM
The experiance I have had with rumors is that they usally are blown way out of proportion, although when you finally get to the bottom of it, there usually is some portion of truth in there that got it started in the first place. Very few rumors start out without any truth to them at all. Good luck!
Slowing-Dee
01-22-2006, 05:33 PM
The experiance I have had with rumors is that they usally are blown way out of proportion, although when you finally get to the bottom of it, there usually is some portion of truth in there that got it started in the first place. Very few rumors start out without any truth to them at all. Good luck!

I'm sure that there's maybe something that started it, but it seems way too abnormal right now for me the believe that it's all truth. My brother says they're false too.

As for the nervousness I get around him, I'm working on it. I no longer mess up his order. :p
Jellybean400
01-22-2006, 10:10 PM
The experiance I have had with rumors is that they usally are blown way out of proportion, although when you finally get to the bottom of it, there usually is some portion of truth in there that got it started in the first place. Very few rumors start out without any truth to them at all. Good luck!

I agree. But sometimes i think that it could even come from a comment...like someone saying "that guy gets around, hes probably got a disease." and from that the rumor grows.

We talk about it at work all the time...it's like the game we played as kids..."Whisper Down the Lane." you keep whispering the story down a line of people, and see what hysterical mess it sounds like at the end!
Slowing-Dee
01-22-2006, 11:58 PM
I agree. But sometimes i think that it could even come from a comment...like someone saying "that guy gets around, hes probably got a disease." and from that the rumor grows.

We talk about it at work all the time...it's like the game we played as kids..."Whisper Down the Lane." you keep whispering the story down a line of people, and see what hysterical mess it sounds like at the end!

Yeah, that's what I was thinking too. Maybe once I get the guts to make small talk with him I'll be able to get around to getting the low-down on this rumour.
Kyia
01-25-2006, 03:02 AM
We talk about it at work all the time...it's like the game we played as kids..."Whisper Down the Lane." you keep whispering the story down a line of people, and see what hysterical mess it sounds like at the end!

We used to call this game "the telephone game".

Woodles, you need to talk to him, get over it. You are 20 and have never dated anyone. Got to start somewhere. If he accepts the date or offers, whichever, get to know him. You will see if he's dirty or a player. And before doing anything sexual have him tested. Even people that are clean can have an STD, and some of them do not go away w/ a pill so be careful.