Parents

[Piper]

My parents **** me off.

Don't get me wrong, I love my mom and dad, but they try to protect me to much. Last night I get home from work and stuffs; this is on my answering machine...

Piper's Mother: "Hi honey, long time no chat, how is that police thing going? Well listen, your daddy is having surgery tomorrow, nothing big just removal of a tumor, it's not cancerous but it bothers him. We'll be at Jewish Hospital around 11 tomorrow. Have a good night sweetie, we'll call you when we get home from the surgery to let you know how it goes."

*Piper sits on her bed with a WTF look on her face staring at the phone.*

It's to late for me to call when I get the message so I call Jewish in the am and find out where it's going to be. I manage to get over there, they had to wait a while, (damn doctors) and of course they are suprized to see me, but I can tell they are happy. I eat with mom, dad goes back upstairs to wait for them to call him, hard to watch the women folk when he is not allowed to eat. Mom and I get upstairs and they are preping him for surgery. I get to see him before he goes in, make a few jokes about his blue gown, kiss him on his forhead and bolt to get back to work by 3:30.

I got a call from mom later saying all went well and he was in recovery. :)

Why the hell didn't they tell me about this sooner??? If you have grown children I ask you....STOP protecting us. We want to be there for you!!! Quit making it so damn hard!!!!!

Ok, rant over. Thank you for listening, my check is in the mail.

[sandie]

I know how ya feel. One day I was talking to my older sister and she says, "mom is having her surgery on her elbow next week." I ask for what? she says "when she had her heart attack awhile ago, they had to do open heart surgery on her and when they had her arm up for that, they pinched a nerve so now they have to correct that." I was in shock. #1 I didnt know she had a heart attack #2 I didnt know she had open heart surgery #3 I was surprised my sisters knew all about this and neglected to tell me!!! Like hello?!?! Shes MY mother too!! I guess I dont fit in the relm of things since I am only the youngest of the family and they have known her longer pfffft. Oh well, all I can do is keep from yelling at my mother for not calling ME too!!

[DesertRat]

Don't know what to say about Piper's thing. When you live in the same town it's not to tough to drop a dime and let folks know what's going on. Regarding Sandie's, you need to stay in touch with them yourself and ask questions.

I'm the one that has taken on the care for my Mom and Dad. Mom's passed now but we still have Dad. We have to fly him out on the Flight for Life helicoptor last year with congestive heart failure. In the middle of all the stress, the last thing I thought of was calling all the brothers and sisters. Once it was all over and everything was OK, well, there just wasn't much to tell anymore. Life was going on as usual and when they never bother calling here anyway... you just don't worry about it. I'm as guilty as your big Sis. I think I told one of the other 3 was all and that was in passing later.

[jellybean40]

I call my mom nearly every day, and have for as long as i can remember. i can tell by her voice how shes feeling. she wont call me because she thinks she'll be bothering me. thats why I do the calling. even if we only talk for 10 minutes.

parents dont want to worry their kids. they think we have enuf going on in our lives. but to me, shes about the most important thing in my life. let your parents know you can handle it if they have bad news to give you, and that you want to be there for them the way they have been for you.

[sandie]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by DesertRat:
[QB] Regarding Sandie's, you need to stay in touch with them yourself and ask questions.

Not that it is any of your business, I do stay in contact with my mother. I cannot help that she holds information back from me, yet tells my sisters. When I ask how shes doing, and she says ok, am I supposed to ask her, did you have a heartattach today? NO! She says shes ok, I take her at her word. I am sorry I am so stupid that I dont ask "how is your heart today?" or "did you have a heart attack yet?" I took care of my father when he was dying, I dont like being accused that I dont stay in contact with my family. Ya'll can ask klar, I DO stay in contact with my family. If it was NOT for ME CALLING THEM, Id NEVER talk to them!! Communication is a two way street ya know! Anyway, sorry I even posted here.

[Mike Tx]

Maybe it's a personal thing. If I had to do something like that, I would not want anyone around. Sure the kids are concerned, but it's my life.

[Jim Burnes]

There are 75 relatives in my extended family, and many friends I call relative...man! If someone just stubs a toe, the phone rings all day long. It's like there is an informal telegraph system. Can't make a move without someone saying "What's up?"

Jim Burnes :p

[sandie]

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Jim Burnes:
<strong>There are 75 relatives in my extended family, and many friends I call relative...man! If someone just stubs a toe, the phone rings all day long. It's like there is an informal telegraph system. Can't make a move without someone saying "What's up?"

Jim Burnes :p </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">hahaha, I wish tho. I got married and none of my family came for various reasons. Oh, I invited them, and even offered my home to them to stay in. I guess they had more important things to do, like oh I dunno, watch TV.