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JKT
09-14-2002, 07:02 AM
A few forum members are aware of some of the problems my Mother has had over the last few months, but I need to get this off my chest, and here seemed to be the place....

I had a bad feeling when I received a call from the Nursing/Rehab facility my Mother has been in and out of for the last few months on Friday morning. They were sending her back to the Emergency Room because of a slight fever, difficulty breathing and a bad Urinary Tract Infection, which she has had, off and on for several months.

A little background....

In May, my Mother had hip replacement surgery, to correct a bad repair she had done when she broke her hip 6 years ago.

Ever since then, she has been in and out of the hospital and a nursing/rehab center. Everything started out great after the initial surgery. Rehab was progressing, then her electrolytes were off, she developed a urinary tract infection and she had a heart arrythmia, and was admitted to the Cardiac Intermediate Care unit for a few days, then back to rehab.

Due to Medicare's policies, she was transferred to a nursing/rehab facility, where she did very well and was discharged home, for home physical therapy. After a couple of weeks, another UTI developed, she fell at home, and was rushed to ER. They wound up treating the UTI, and basically forgot about her sore (injured) knee that she had fallen on.

After a week or so in the hospital, she was transferred back to the rehab facility. From there, she did OK, but wound up with yet another UTI and back into the hospital, where she got better, then back to the rehab center last Saturday, September 7th.

On Friday, September 13th, she was taken back to the ER from the rehab center due to a slight fever, difficulty breathing and another UTI. The difficulty breathing was diagnosed as a combination of COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) and CHF (congestive heart failure), both of which can be treated, but not cured.

The time line is a little jumbled.

When I saw her in ER on Friday, I had bad feeling about the situation. In all this, we (the family) learned that UTI's, in older folks, show themselves in various ways, such as disorientation and confusion. Mom was not even aware of who I was, where she was, or what was going on.

I received a call from her Doctor at about 0430 this morning (Saturday), saying that during the night, her blood pressure had dropped, she became unresponsive, had vomited and aspirated, and is now in CICU (again) and on a ventilator.

My brother is driving up today (he lives 500+ miles away). I need to call him before he leaves, because of her change in condition, but I don't want to call quite this early (it's now 0545 here).

She does not want any heroic measures taken, and the Doc gave her condition as critical andfrankly does not expect her to survive. Each time she has gone into the hospital, she has been worse and responded slower to treatment. The Doc also said that she has an infection in her blood, as well as her bladder, and both are very resistant to antibiotics.

So, here I sit, awaiting a semi-decent hour, to tell my big brother that our Mom might not survive the day.

Thanks for listening......

kateykakes
09-14-2002, 07:30 AM
Your family, especially your mother, is in my prayers, Jack.

SGT Dave
09-14-2002, 07:35 AM
Jack, it don't mean a DA** thing I know, but I've been there.

Best of luck to you and well keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

SpecOpsWarrior
09-14-2002, 10:13 AM
Jack, I'm real sorry to hear about your mom having all those troubles!

You got friends here, and anytime you wanna talk, dont be afraid to ask.

Check your pm's.

156
09-14-2002, 11:13 AM
JKT, I'm really sorry. I've been where you are; I know the feeling. I'll say a prayer for your mom and hope for a speedy recovery. Keep us posted. I'll check back on this topic.

shorty
09-14-2002, 11:45 AM
Jack, I will be praying and thinking about your family. Be strong and I hope everything works out for you and your family.

InSane1
09-14-2002, 04:25 PM
JKT, sorry to hear. You have a tough task having to tell your brother. God give you strength man.

jellybean40
09-14-2002, 04:37 PM
I'm so sorry, Jack. i'm going thru it all with mom too...she's still at home however, alone... and stubborn. each day seems to bring a new health problem. i try to thank God i've had her as long as i have, and that she's had the wonderful life she's had. hang in there.

Mitzi
09-14-2002, 05:13 PM
I'm so sory, Jack. I have been through this twice, with my husband's parents. All you can do is wait and pray that God will ease her pain soon. It's really hard, I know.
God Bless you and yours.

Piper
09-14-2002, 05:47 PM
Jack,

I'm sorry about your mom. *hugs* Please take care of yourself and know we are here for you.

wonderwoman
09-14-2002, 06:58 PM
My thought and prayers are with you Jack! You are a prime example of a model son, your mother is truly blessed to have you. Take care and keep us advised.

Fastie
09-15-2002, 12:08 AM
((((Jack)))) I'm so sorry. I will pray for you and your family. We all care about you and we're here for you !!

Stone
09-15-2002, 09:46 AM
I am just one more person letting you know your in my prairs. Hope it helps at least a little.

Good luck, JKT.

Mike Tx
09-15-2002, 11:30 AM
Good luck Jack, and god bless your mom.

klar
09-16-2002, 01:04 AM
Good luck Jack. I hope that your mother recovers for a time and is able to talk to you and your brother a little before leaving this world like the docts expect. I know it is not going to be a easy thing and like many in here have stated we all are here for you. Pm us if you need a shoulder to lean on or a person to talk to.

Klar

JKT
09-16-2002, 07:34 AM
Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts and prayers.

Turns out that the Doc was right, and my feeling was, too.

Mom passed away Sunday morning, shortly after 6AM.

We've made most of the arrangements. Due to the logistics, we

klar
09-16-2002, 07:37 AM
Sorry for your loss there JKT. I know that your mom is in a better place and that she is free of pain. Hang in there and like stated before we all are here for you.

Klar

wonderwoman
09-16-2002, 08:33 PM
So sorry to hear that Jack. My deepest sympathy.

Don
09-16-2002, 10:41 PM
Jack, I just now saw this thread. I'm sorry that you had to go through this. From another one who has BTDT. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="frown.gif" />

Blonde Heat
09-18-2002, 05:50 PM
May the lord be with you in your time of need. I'll be thinking of you.

Jim Burnes
09-18-2002, 11:02 PM
My families prayers are with your family.

Jim Burnes

SpecOpsWarrior
09-19-2002, 05:12 AM
I'm sorry I didn't check back in on this thread sooner.

Jack, I'm real sorry to hear about your mom. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers today.

Take care brother!

Piper
09-19-2002, 10:53 AM
I wish I had checked this thread sooner as well.

I will be thinking of you and your family during this time Jack. Please remember to take care of yourself and remember your friends at o.com will be here for you.

Hugs,
Michele

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Jules
09-19-2002, 11:53 AM
((((((((((Jack))))))))))

I just saw this and I'm so sorry for your loss.
You are in my prayers.

Jules

JKT
10-02-2002, 10:08 PM
I just wanted to thank all those that lended me their prayers and support.

It means a lot to me, as this is kind of like a family here.

Now for the tough part. My brother and I have to go through 30+ years of belongings, memories, etc.

We spent over a week, and have barely scratched the surface....

Thank you, again, from the bottom of my heart.

wonderwoman
10-03-2002, 12:35 AM
Jack as much as going through the belongings will be hard, I think you will find that the memories will bring laughter and smiles as well as the sadness!

Take care Jack.... we are here for you. Just reach out if you need to.

jellybean40
10-03-2002, 03:26 AM
((((((Jack))))))

Check your PM

Royce
10-04-2002, 08:25 PM
Yes Jack I do remember.

PM for you.

shorty
10-07-2002, 11:31 AM
Jack, I am sorry I haven't replied sooner, I am very sorry for your loss. I know that nothing anyone says will make it better, but it time it will get easier, it did for me.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.