Now my spouse wants to go LE.

[Piper]

Hi Folks...

As most of you know, I'm currently in the process for my city's PD. Our county is currently accepting applications for their PD. Well guess what, my husband wants to apply. He's seen a change in me while I've been going through this process and hearing me talk about the things I'll do, and actually going on a ride along himself, he really wants to make this happen.

My question...are there any of you that has a husband or wife in LE as well? How does your relationship handle it? I knew we were in for some change with me going LE...but what now? Let me say, I'm happy that my husband wants to do this if it will make him happy, but I'm scared too.

Thanks for listening...

Piper

[Don]

Piper there is nothing to be scared about here. There are many couples who both work LE. Some work the same agency and some work different agencies.

A few things that I see that could be a problem. First is the schedules. It's a bitch to have both working rotating schedules, particularly if you have kids.

The second is a little more subtle. It is very difficult to be a cop, and not make it your entire life. However if your mate is NOT in law enforcement then you sort of have a "steadying hand." When you both are in LE, even if different departments, I would think it would be very easy to slip into a mode of really making LE your entire life.

Don't do it. You both need some outside interests. Also, you both need some "me" time.

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[Piper]

Well he has up and changed his mind...

Seriously, I think the excitement bug caught him. Look's like I'll eventually be the only LEO in the house.

I have to admit, I like it that way.

;)

[occiferdave]

The only husband and wife team I know of is the CHP couple that worked up here on the 210 freeway.....

They were the ones that started the pursuit with Rodney King...


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[Mark A. Smith]

Piper,
There are a bunch of couples on my PD and all but a couple are doing fne. I don't think their problems reflect the job, just problems that normal people have in any line of work. Infidelity is the common trait I've seen but again, that's not police related that's just the moral standing of the people involved.

We have a policy that husband and wife can't work the same area at the same time so it's unlikely they will ever be on call together. I don't know if it would a help or a hinderance if you and hubby worked on different PD's.

In my opinion, as long as your marriage is strong it'll work out. It will probably bring you two closer together but just make sure you still have friends and activities outside of law enforcement too.

Good luck to both of you. ;)

Mark

[Joseph]

I hope every thing works out for you. If it was me however I'd have a hard time adjusting but I wouldn't want to hold someone back on what they want to do. It would be hard for me but good luck to both of you what ever you both decide to do.