update on my mom and me

[Blonde Heat]

I am finally back online and very greatful for an extention cord. :D I squeezed between the furniture to get to the computer. Withdrawls suck!

My house is getting a massive facelift and my husband thought it would be real fun to pile all the furniture in the room with the computer. What a jerk! :D But after 2 1/2 weeks of unsucessfully trying to get at the computer i finally made it. Plus i brought one of theose really long orange extension cords.

My mom's surgery was unsucessful to say the least and she was given 1-3 years to live. Its so sad. Plus to buy her time they are requesting she do radiation treatments 5 days a week for 7 weeks.

On the bright side and i know some of you will say what a horrible person but after the month i have had, Is was tremendous fun.

I'll start with the hospital incident. My mom was given a whole mess of morphine while in there for a month. So she started to get a little loony which later turned into alot loony as the days went by. So one morning my sister and I went to visit her. Upon entering the room my mom starts by asking why my sister got arrested. We had this "what the hell" look on our face and proceed to question her. Well in my moms stupor her halucinations led her to believe that my sister and all her friends were arrested for various things. My sister left the room to laugh her self to death without ****ing my mom off because she would get beligerent if she thought we were making fun of her. Well while she was gone my mom starts in on me with the whole jail thing and wanted to know why she was arrested and how much it cost to get her out. So me being my usual jokster self, whip up this story about how she was arrested for prostitution and it cost me a whole 10 dollars to bail her out. My mom was so drugged she bought it. And while i whipping up my tale my sister walks in the room to hear me telling the whole sordid story. :o :D Boy was she ****ed. It was great to laugh after the hellish month i've had. :D

This went on for about 4 days and finally my sister had my mom convinced i would never be a cop because i had been pulled over for numerous DUI's. So i got the whole lecture about how its not cool to get busted while drinking and driving from someone so high on morphine and other drugs that she seen pirate ships floating above her bed and needed a full time sitter to stay in the room. Well she's back to herself for the time being and was very embarrased to hear all the things she did and said. :)

[klar]

Glad to see you have made it back. I know what it is like to be without a computer I am without one for a bit at home and hope to have a new one next month. I will try not to beat this one up with a ball peen hammer.

I know how it is to have a loved one sick and dying. It is not easy and the times to be able to laugh are few and far between but they are well worth the wait. All I can say is that we are here for you.

Klar

[JKT]

Good to see you back :)

The incident with your Mom sounds familiar. When my Mom broke her hip, she was given demerol, and was very loopy :D (she has a very high pain threshold, and rarely takes even asprin).

I could give way to platitudes, but you know the story. The best you can do is enjoy life with your Mom while you can. It won't be easy, and at times will be miserable, but it will be important to her, at least.

Remember, we're all here for you to vent to.

[207]

Welcome back. I'm sure you went through some very difficult times and there will no doubt more to come. I wish you all the best.

I just lost my mom on 10/25/01 and that was a very difficult ordeal. My mom waited too long at the signs of of a heart attack a year earlier. She experienced chest pains on a Friday BUT, because she didn't want to scare my 9 year old daughter, she refused to let my wife take her to the hospital.
She finally went on Sunday... but the damage was already done plus the heart valves were weak, etc.
She held on for a year and we made the best of it. She had to enter an assisted living facility and boy, when she lost her independence and personal freedom she got down right ornery at times!

Again, best wishes to you and mom, and I hope all goes well.

[DesertRat]

Hi Pheonix. Glad your back. Your month sounds like the last year or so with my Mom. I think I told you we cared for her at home. She also had the hallucinations and the behavior became very....unique. My Mom started stashing food that she would never eat. After she passed, we found all sorts of things hidden away. The worst part was, she would never give up the smoking and would sneak cigarettes however she could.....usually my Dad feeling guilty, and of course, had no concept of what a smolding cigarette does to a matress, etc. Very scary stuff for a while.

You're in for a ride kiddo. Hang on with both hands and love every one of the good days to it's fullest. As for the bad ones, that person doing those things is not "really" your mother anymore. What you gotta do to cope is what you gotta do. Meaning, use humor to the fullest extent. (I re-read that and it sounded like I was advocating torture or violence or something. Those are just things you will fell like using but won't be allowed to)

And, for all those people that don't already think I'm wierd enough, when it get's near the end, and she starts telling you what she is going to do to haunt you, pay attention. My Mom told us she was going to bother us to get even, and said specifically one day, I'll keep turning that TV set off so you have to pay attention to me. My wife has it on all the time for noise.

For one week after my Mom passed, our TV set would turn itself off and on every evening. :eek: One night, my wife walked out to the living room from the kitchen to turn it back on twice. It clicked off again and my wife yelled laughingly, "damnit Oleta, knock it off." It stopped. Coincidence....you decide.

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[Summer Rain]

Hey there Phoenix: Glad to see you back on the boards. I'm glad your sprits are bright. It's a real tough thing to see a loved one sick and knowing the inevitable. Good for you for allowing yourself the laughs in such a time, those laughs and good memories will help get you through those days and nights when you don't think it's possible to laugh again.

Cherish the time you do have with you mother now, it will be so rewarding now and years to come. I enjoy the laughs my brother's and I share about my father who passed four short years ago.

Take care, and my thoughts are with you and your family... Keep smiling ;)

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[Blonde Heat]

Thanks. :)