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lovetoskydive
12-01-2008, 02:27 PM
I had a friend of 4 years who lived in Wisconsin. She wanted to move to Florida where I lived so I offered for her to stay with me. To make a long story short, we didn’t get along well. During this time I was missing small items assuming I just misplaced them. At some point however, I started thinking I never misplace anything so something must be wrong. Once she took cash without my permission but she said she needed to borrow it. Anyway, one day when I got home from work, I noticed she moved out most of her things. I tried to call her, no answer. She came back but by then, I changed the lock on the door.. When I got back home, the door was unlocked and slightly agar. I called the police and we had a witness who saw her with two people picking the lock only a few minutes before I got there. Now she was no where to be found. Within 2 days I got a call from a detective and we found her on the job but she claims she didn’t take anything and she got a locksmith and left the open so it’s not her problem. She returned some items but claims she took them by mistake. By the end of the week, she left for Wisconsin. There’s only so much that can be done with someone leaving the state. I started doing my own investigation and found that just about everyone in her family has a criminal record for theft, drug charges, arm robbery, kidnapping, possession of a concealed weapon and list is beyond extensive. In fairness, she doesn’t have a record. I’m not satisfied with her alleged theft. It has become more than just money to me and I’m wondering if there’s someone out there that knows something. What can I do? I have contacted her mother (she was willing to help) but that only made the situation worse because she warned me not to contact her family or friends or she’ll get an order (I’m not sure what she meant by that) but she has now taken the offense. I’m very unfamiliar with the justice system. All I know is that I wish to contact her friends to find out if they may know something without getting into any trouble. She has a Facebook and a Myspace account in which I can contact her friends. Can I do this? Is this considered harassment?

Please keep in mind I have no proof she took these items from me except the items were located in very specific places in the home where we're the only ones who know where it is. There was no evidence of a stranger going through the house because everything was in order and of course, I got home only a few minutes after she left.

SgtCHP
12-01-2008, 02:37 PM
Some of us learn through other's mistakes, some of us learn by our own mistakes!

Keep this incident in the back of your mind. Better to have found out now about her miscreant behavior than later when she has misappropriated everything you own.

Disassociate yourself from her and let it go. Go on with your life and let her continue in her escapades. The local police will probably pursue it as far as they can, but don't expect miracles.

wirefire2
12-02-2008, 01:06 AM
Better off cutting your losses now and forget about anything else. It would just be a waste of money and your time.

lovetoskydive
12-06-2008, 07:15 AM
Thanks for your imput guys. I'm feeling better about the situation now since time has passed and I'm more grateful that I've learned so much from the experience. It has taught me to pay more attention the red flags and be more careful. Love love the GW quote SgtCHP And the Harrington Quote Wirefire. Great balance! Since my losses were extensive, I filed a suit and without any resistance from her, I had some satisfaction during mediation, even an apology from her.

nuthead
12-06-2008, 07:44 AM
And next time, start your own investigation BEFORE you let someone move in with you. You have to look out for yourself because nobody else is going to. ;)

Smurfette_76
12-06-2008, 08:46 AM
Thanks for your imput guys. I'm feeling better about the situation now since time has passed and I'm more grateful that I've learned so much from the experience. It has taught me to pay more attention the red flags and be more careful. Love love the GW quote SgtCHP And the Harrington Quote Wirefire. Great balance! Since my losses were extensive, I filed a suit and without any resistance from her, I had some satisfaction during mediation, even an apology from her.


I'm confused. On 12-1 you're posting asking for assistance and advice but by the 6th you've already filed a suit AND had mediation?

lovetoskydive
12-07-2008, 11:03 AM
Remember I wanted to keep the story short. I had already filed the suit prior to the original posting (the very same week of the theft). I was more concerned with her getting caught and paying the price for her crime rather than my compensation.